1 John 4:11 Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.
God has shown us just how much He loves us by allowing His Son to come and give His life for us on the cross; enabling us to gain access to eternal life with Him in heaven.
Should we not take a leaf out of His book and try to do the same – not give our life on a cross for someone else, but to start by loving them without reservation.
Start the whole cycle by loving them first of all and see how God will change things around you.