1 Timothy 3:3 not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money.
The apostle writes down some good advice to people wanting to be in overseer positions within the church; some may say bishops.
In reality, we are all in an overseer position within the church. Some of us may not be overseeing much, but God has entrusted us with the people around us!
Being a good example to the people around us is paramount in trying to show them a new life in Christ.
This does not mean taking the fun out of life or the church, but being respectful and not doing things in excess.