1 John 4:18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love.
You may be forgiven for thinking there is fear in love and for relying on the fear we have when we first think we are in love; but true love casts out fear and everything that goes with it.
Getting to know someone can be described as being exciting or terrifying, depending on how you look at it; but it can also be a very steep learning curve for some.
To really know your love for another you need to know them and you need to know it is right to love them.
Don’t get upset about how to love someone, just love them and learn to live with them in your life in whatever capacity that is.