Ephesians 5:33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
When God says we should give up everything for the church, He does not mean giving up on the core things which He shows us – love.
To do Gods work effectively means being able to love those around you just as much as you love God and yourself.
If we do not extend the same full and effectual love toward those around us, people will ask how we can say one thing and do another.
Jesus showed love to family, friends, church and community; a full and effectual love!