Psalm 24:9 Lift up your heads, you gates; lift them up, you ancient doors, that the King of glory may come in.
For as long as we keep our gate shut, nobody can come in. For as long as we keep our hearts shut, nobody can come in!
It is difficult to come our of a relationship which ends in tears, but to experience all the good things of relationships, we do need to take chances now and again.
God is not asking us to take chances, He is asking us to trust in the truth, in Him...